My want is to worship you, to serve and obey you, to always put your needs above mine. You are my superior. You are strong, intelligent, sensitive and compassionate. You are Woman and you are beautiful.

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

Her Servant Once More

For the past month we have been living a vanilla life. No mention of Femdom at all. Quite boring really.

But last night V told me to do something and I objected.

“You’re not very submissive these days, are you?” she said.

“Well, you haven’t been very dominant either,” I replied.

We then started a discussion about our previous Femdom experiences and how things used to be between us.

V admitted she liked it when I did what I was told. I said I’d be happy to revert back to my submissive role.

“Then start doing what I tell you, beginning now,” she said.

Later in the evening she seemed happier – more content – than she has been for a long time. I asked her about this and she admitted that, yes, she did prefer it when I obeyed her.

“So, do you want to whip me tonight?” I asked, pleadingly.

“Yes, and there’s a long list of bad behaviours you need to be punished for so I hope you’re up to it,” she said.

I received my whipping last night and it hurt like hell – by far the most painful I’ve received so far.

But I was also extremely grateful to V that she wanted to thrash me and I thanked her intensely.

This morning in bed she nudged my groin with her foot. “Haven’t you forgotten something?” she asked.


“My morning cup of tea in bed. Get moving and I shouldn’t have to remind you.”

How good it feels to be her servant once more!


faninho said...

Hm...seemes as if your dreams come true with time and from time to time.

It is always good to be patient. So she 's got time to think about how nice it is to be served by you. And if only you let her, she brings "it" up by herself...

Nice that you keep us informed.

Anonymous said...

I have been following your blog for sometime with great interest, and as a would be submissive husband, who's wife is slowly coming round to the idea of taking control in our marriage, I can only say that patients definitely pays off in the long run.The more that she sees that you love her, and the more that she gets used to being served by you, the more she will want it. Just make sure that she sees how much you care for her and how much you enjoy serving her, and things can only get better.

subservire said...

Thanks to you both for your comments. Patience is certainly a major part and, for me at least, it's probably the most difficult component in developing a FLR. There are definitely no quick fixes - that much I have learnt.

But I'm becoming more encouraged as time goes by that we'll successfully achieve a Female Led Relationship.

V is gradually warming to the role. I have to remember, however, that there are certain aspects which turn her off. I therefore have to tread carefully, otherwise we'll be back to square one.

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad that you are getting to where you want to be. I have been topping from the bottom for about a year now. I have tried to explain to my wife how I feel but she has previously shown little interest. The most important lesson that I have learned is that if you want your vanilla wife to take on the dominant role then it is so not just about what you want, your fantasy, it must also be about her, and what she wants. You must show that no matter what, you love her.

I have also lowered my expectations and set my sights much lower. The more she becomes accustomed to being pampered and getting her own way, the more she is starting to tell me to do things. It not just about the sexual element of our relationship, but that exchange of power, where she has control, and you have to obey her commands. The more she expects, and accepts her postion of power, the better it is for me. After all its all about submitting to her, and giving over control.

Just take it slowly, dwell on the good times, and don't push your luck, as you say one small incident can put you back weeks.

Severin said...

Ah, it is certainly so very good to read of your happiness.

I think you've gained the experience and have the sense to let it all emerge gracefully and gradually.

anthony r said...

i'm glad life returned back to "normal" for you...

After what seemed to be a very long time(14 months) of hesitation on my Wife's part, recently She seems to be enjoying exerting Herself more and more. Patience seems to be paying off.

Mistress160 said...

So pleased for you!

Ms160s Abode

cagedone said...

Funny how it comes in waves...mine too, right now its off...:)

But its only a matter of time...

Nice to hear your back in the saddle

helpmate hubby said...

Great to see your back on track!

Anonymous said...

I have read whole your blog. I think your wife has her dominant side that is comming up.
Best wishes to you and your wife.

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