While V and I have attempted to balance a 24/7 FLR with the regular routines of everyday life, we have both concluded that this is an impractical, even destructive lifestyle for us at present.
Occasional role play is the way of the future in our relationship. 24/7 Femdom is not working for either of us.
In analyzing our relationship over the past five months (since I first introduced V to a FLR), it’s clear this way of life has created far more problems than advantages. We’ve had more conflict over this issue than any other.
The basic fact of the matter is that I initiated a Female Led Relationship – not V.
It’s MY wish, not hers. And unless V openly embraces this type of relationship, it’s not going to work.
I make no apologies that I’ve “topped from the bottom”. When one partner attempts to introduce a new dimension to the relationship – and one as wide ranging as Femdom/FLR – it’s often necessary to persuade the other partner to incorporate changes they might not be initially comfortable with. This is “topping from the bottom.” It’s introducing the idea of a new element to their relationship and then initiating steps towards its development.
At times I’ve been overly forceful in attempting to introduce this new dynamic to our marriage, with mixed results. And there’s no denying I’m the one with the kink and I’m doing it for my gratification, not V’s.
But at the same time I’ve identified several dominating traits in V over the years – and she’s often enjoyed the sexual Femdom role play we’ve experimented with.
So, I thought that she’d be acceptable to extending this to a lifestyle relationship. This required me to push for changes to our marriage – to “top from the bottom.”
But ultimately it hasn’t worked. Maybe in time but, for the sake of our marriage, I think it’s best to back off for a while; to leave this issue alone.
It was an interesting experiment but, in the end, that’s all it was – an experiment.
I’ll still be contributing to this blog from time to time, but I doubt I’ll have anything interesting to contribute on living in a Female Led Relationship.
Thanks to all of you who have supported and guided me during this five month journey and I sincerely wish you all the very best in your lifestyles and relationships.