Perhaps I’m a slow learner but I’ve finally come to the conclusion you can’t coerce your partner to become dominant.
While Elise Sutton, Ms Rika and other well known Dominas have suggested the best way to find a dominant partner is staring you in the face, I don’t believe existing relationships can easily adapt to a Femdom lifestyle.
Put simply, I don’t believe you can change someone’s nature. Trying to change your spouse will inevitably lead to disaster.
Either your partner is dominant or she isn’t. If it’s a suppressed part of her nature, the chances are you CAN draw that part of her personality to the fore, and that can lead to a successful Femdom relationship.
However, if it isn’t there to begin with, you can’t create it within her.
Sure, if you take on a submissive role, you can spoil your partner. She can become selfish or bossy, but you can’t create a Domina unless it’s a natural part of her make-up.
Herein lies the dilemma for many submissive males living in a long-term relationship. While many women will accommodate your submissiveness to some degree, it is rare for them to initiate Femdom activities.
V is yet to initiate Femdom in any meaningful way. She’ll accommodate my submissiveness to some degree, but it’s just to satisfy me, not her.