V and I have had some fairly indepth discussions over the past few days and, while we’ve resolved our differences, the dynamics of our FLR have been moderated somewhat – at least for the time being.
There was a misunderstanding when I told V I wanted to be the “wife” in our relationship.
Her assumption was that I wanted to dress as a woman, wear high heels and a frock. This wrongful interpretation took her over the edge. My use of the word “wife” related to my desire to assume the home duties of cooking, cleaning etc and for V to formally acknowledge her role as the person in charge.
I’m mentally drained. We both are. I certainly have no sexual energy which is probably just as well because we’ve agreed to step back a little and to resume more of a conventional married relationship. Femdom play is on the backburner. No more requests that she dominate me. No more expectations on my part.
I think our recent argument has brought us closer on an emotional level. It’s often good to clear the air and to make up – to reaffirm our vows of love and commitment.
If there’s one thing which is abundantly clear to me now, it’s the undeniable truth that topping from the bottom DOES NOT WORK.
For anyone interested in pursuing a female led relationship, please listen to me when I say don’t push too hard. Let things progress slowly. Follow your Mistress’s lead. She’ll find her comfort zone within her own good time. Don’t attempt to make your fantasies your reality. The two are very rarely compatible.
Should you find a woman who is prepared to let you serve her, pamper her, spoil her and indulge her, you are a very lucky man! Don’t expect more. Don’t seek more. The fantasy world of the Dominatrix is extremely rare.