It seems my concerns about V were unfounded. I’ve been a fool and V was more than justified in taking the approach she did with me.
Once things settled down she explained her thoughts. This is pretty much what she said:
“I believed you were doing this because you loved me, adored me, worshiped the ground I walked on. Not because I’m genetically superior. What sort of crap is that?
“I was really getting in to you serving me because you WANT to, not because of some kinky fantasy about women being superior.
“You’re just trying to fulfil some fantasy you’ve read from Sutton’s book. You’re paraphrasing what she says word for word as if you’ve rehearsed it. That’s not romantic. It’s tragic, it’s pathetic, and when I said “stop” I wanted to stop you from being pathetic.
“I don’t want a pathetic partner who actually believes women are superior because of their genetic make-up. That’s bullshit.
“Sure, women are better than men at some things and I know we mature earlier, learn quicker, are higher achievers in many respects. I’m a teacher. I know these things. But don’t feed me that crap about women being superior to men. Women fought against men being superior in the 1960’s. It’s ridiculous to now argue the total opposite.
“That’s your fantasy not mine and you just sound pathetic by carrying on about it.
“When I said stop, I was trying to save you the embarrassment. But you kept going on. This isn’t about me or what I want. It’s about what you want. That’s what made me furious.
“I want romance, not some perversion about women being genetically superior. That’s hardly romantic. I want you to do these things for me because you adore me. That’s romantic. Now you’ve ruined it. I was getting into this because you made me feel special; because I thought you loved me. And you’d gone to so much effort to please me. But it wasn’t pleasing me, was it. It was fulfilling your fantasy of the all superior, all knowing female dominant.
“Don’t bother, and don’t disrespect my intelligence by reciting such crap from that book. Of course women aren’t superior. Nor are men superior. We’re equal and that’s what feminists have been fighting for since the 1960’s and before.”
What an idiot I am. I feel like doing away with all the shit I’ve been writing about on this blog. She’s right. It is an embarrassment.
I think Polyfetishist was right on the money when he commented: “I think Sutton does us all a great disservice. Men are not inferior. Sutton's research is just trash.”
I feel embarrassed at the way I’ve slavishly followed her opinions and advice.
It seems I’ve misjudged V yet again.