My want is to worship you, to serve and obey you, to always put your needs above mine. You are my superior. You are strong, intelligent, sensitive and compassionate. You are Woman and you are beautiful.

Wednesday, January 24, 2007

Mindset V Reality

For the past week, Wife led moments have been rare. Or I should say Femdom moments have been rare, because the two are quite different.

I think it’s correct to say I am now constantly in a wife led marriage. Femdom is more in MY mind and the fantasies of a femdom relationship are quite different from reality.

However, for the most part, it’s life as usual. Submitting to her in small ways seems to be a good and practical goal. In reality, I think it’s as far as I can extend this type of relationship for now.

I’m coming to the realization that those special occasions when she tells me to do something which is counter to what I’d normally do, are very precious and all that I need to be fulfilled.

Of course my fantasies are still important to me. I need to be controlled, but for now that’s a state of mind which I can delight in privately.

I’ve conditioned myself to comply with any request she may make, perform any task she may set, accept her judgment above mine and, most importantly, not expect any reward.

I won’t deny that it’s hard to maintain this attitude even though there’s little or no reciprocation. Of course I like her to acknowledge my submission, and naturally I’d like her to initiate some Femdom elements.

I appreciate the work she’s put in, the way she’s accepted my submissive desires even though she didn’t wish for this new dimension to our relationship.

But the fact is, I am a submissive. I need to be controlled by my wife. That’s a major part of who I am and that won’t change.

I remind myself that this is the life I’ve wanted to live. I’m very fortunate because now, after all these years, I AM living it – and not just in my mind.


subboy said...

This is very intriguing. Could you give us some examples of how your act out your submission to your wife?

Thank you and best wishes.

helpmate hubby said...

I would like some examples as well!

subservire said...

According to the Oxford Dictionary, to be submissive is to be humble, obedient and to yield to power or authority. To submit is to cease resistance or to surrender oneself to the control of another.

By this definition I submit to my wife in several small ways, as described in earlier posts.

In particular, I try to accept her wants and desires above my own. For instance, we are about to take a short holiday break next week. My preference is one location. V’s is another, so naturally V’s preference takes priority – because she’s decided.

V also decides what I cook for dinner each night. She decides which restaurant we go to, which movie we see, when we go out and when we stay at home. Of course, she considers my viewpoint and welcomes my input. But the bottom line is that she decides.

Other examples of humbleness and obedience on my part include not answering back, complying with her wishes, performing tasks she sets me. These are all aspects of submission to her.

As I said in my post, I try to comply with any request she may make, perform any task she may set, accept her judgment above mine and not expect any reward.

I hope I’ve answered your question, or perhaps I’ve misunderstood its meaning. Please let me know if you require any further clarification. I respect both of your opinions and enjoy reading both of your blogs.

Incidentally helpmatehubby, when can we expect to read more about the Alfa Female traits of your Wife’s cousin who came to stay? Your December 28 post was most interesting.